I know I am not the seeker of all truths or anything but some people really confuse me. You know how when your life long friend lies to you and you trash her whole way of life? (Guilty) Or when two people split up and you tell your bff that you never liked that sorry excuse for a guy anyway. Why do we do that? I have seen it get pretty darn ugly. Things like telling the cops they do drugs, getting them fired, busting all the air out of their tires.
I think of it like this. If it was a good friend you had to know she was like that anyway, so stop talking to her and if she never calls you back than good riddance. If it was a relationship that's when things get kind-of tricky. We all start fights and break-up for stupid reasons. You are not perfect, he is not perfect, maybe that's why you get along. But what are some of those reasons. I have a small list of a few reasons and solutions.
1. You are looking for a reason he is not right. Facebook stalking, driving by his work, asking about some "girl".
Why?!?! Do you know he cheated? Do you need proof? Ask him! and if he did pack his shit and change your #.
2. Little things. Toilet seats, tooth paste, dishes, trash.
Are you Martha Stewart?!?! Does he bitch about your make-up all over the phone, shoes taking over the closet, headbands and ponytail holders all over the house? No?!? Then shut-it, close-it, wash-em and take it out.
3. But "We never see each other". Crying Because you never spend time together?!?!
Are you 13??!?! Most adults have a job, bills to pay and children! So between little Johnny's football practice
and working 7-4 not including the time to get home he never gets time to himself much-less you.
4. He "changed". Looks, actions, weight, clothing, mood.
Have you looked in the mirror honey??!? I don't know about you but after 15 years, 4 kids and a year of hell, I sure have! I look like and old maid, am lazy as a cow, dress like one of those before shots on What not to Wear and am pretty much a B* 24/7.
5. He did it! Cheated, hit you, sold the car without asking, took all your money and ran, etc.
Then knock his ass down and call 911. Then after they pick up his stupid ass. Press charges, show up in court and move far a away. Never talk to his stupid ass again. Never! If you have kids go to court tell them what happened and they will work the situation out to figure out the best plan for the children. But do not stand up for him.
Either way the situation goes, don't be stupid. Petty fights, name calling, running off with the "new guy" it's all dumb. If you have kids, your children will remember it. They Can her you and know who you are talking about. The next idiot will not be perfect he will still leave the seat up. That "newness" will ware off and you will be stuck with another idiot.
*This was a post of of humor meant for those crazy single gals of mine who just can't find the one price charming in tin foil.*
However abuse is not a joke and if you or someone you know is dealing with abuse please call your local DHR, police or http://cawc.org/ for help.