How and when to Break-up

       I know I am not the seeker of all truths or anything but some people really confuse me. You know how when your life long friend lies to you and you trash her whole way of life? (Guilty) Or when two people split up and you tell your bff that you never liked that sorry excuse for a guy anyway. Why do we do that? I have seen it get pretty darn ugly. Things like telling the cops they do drugs, getting them fired, busting all the air out of their tires. 

      I think of it like this. If it was a good friend you had to know she was like that anyway, so stop talking to her and if she never calls you back than good riddance. If it was a relationship that's when things get kind-of tricky. We all start fights and break-up for stupid reasons. You are not perfect, he is not perfect, maybe that's why you get along. But what are some of those reasons. I have a small list of a few reasons and solutions. 

1. You are looking for a reason he is not right. Facebook stalking, driving by his work, asking about some "girl". 

Why?!?! Do you know he cheated? Do you need proof? Ask him! and if he did pack his shit and change your #.

2. Little things. Toilet seats, tooth paste, dishes, trash. 

Are you Martha Stewart?!?! Does he bitch about your make-up all over the phone, shoes taking over the closet, headbands and ponytail holders all over the house? No?!? Then shut-it, close-it, wash-em and take it out. 

3. But "We never see each other". Crying Because you never spend time together?!?!

Are you 13??!?! Most adults have a job, bills to pay and children! So between little Johnny's football practice

and working 7-4 not including the time to get home he never gets time to himself much-less you.

4. He "changed". Looks, actions, weight, clothing, mood.

Have you looked in the mirror honey??!? I don't know about you but after 15 years, 4 kids and a year of hell, I sure have! I look like and old maid, am lazy as a cow, dress like one of those before shots on What not to Wear and am pretty much a B* 24/7.

5. He did it! Cheated, hit you, sold the car without asking, took all your money and ran, etc.

Then knock his ass down and call 911. Then after they pick up his stupid ass. Press charges, show up in court and move far a away. Never talk to his stupid ass again. Never! If you have kids go to court tell them what happened and they will work the situation out to figure out the best plan for the children. But do not stand up for him. 

Either way the situation goes, don't be stupid. Petty fights, name calling, running off with the "new guy" it's all dumb. If you have kids, your children will remember it. They Can her you and know who you are talking about. The next idiot will not be perfect he will still leave the seat up. That "newness" will ware off and you will be stuck with another idiot. 

*This was a post of of humor meant for those crazy single gals of mine who just can't find the one price charming in tin foil.*

However abuse is not a joke and if you or someone you know is dealing with abuse please call your local DHR, police or http://cawc.org/ for help. 

I really want to blog...

But really I have Nothing to say. Who really wants to hear about how kid #4 has been sick for days and I haven't slept or showered in days. All I do it bitch and cry about bs in my everyday life. I want to stop that. So everyone(all 23 of you who might see this) please share with me your writing prompts or favorite link up/share blogs. Thanks in advance!

L I N D S A Y

I have spent 27 years...(I think) trying to figure out who I am.

Style

Life

Religion

Heart

Home

  

The truth is I have no f'ing clue! I could list facts about myself all day but there is enough of that over here.

I was divorced once in '05 and my #1 phrase to run with was I had to find "me" again. But the problem is "me" has gotten older, lazier, and fatter. And the old "me" is lost. I have this I don't care attitude about everything. I think that is just me resorting to being 13 again. I care, hell I care a little too much. I just hope everyone knows that. I don't think I have and will say it out loud to anyone. Except my kids. I don't feel close to anyone but them and after this year I am afraid to be close to anyone. I have no clue what this post is supposed to say/mean. I guess I will take a shop at finding "me" one more time. If I fail in 2012. Screw it.

GOODBYE 2011!!

I never thought I would love and hate a day so much. I have been begging for 2012 for months and now it is closely approaching I might cry. This has been the hardest year of my life and I have just sat around bitching about it. But I have to stop it, today. I hate resolutions and who the hell ever keeps them?... So I am just going to make a list of things I am going to do in 2012 with a little help from Pinterest

1. Care about myself

Joan via Tumblr

2. Wear pin curls in and don't pull my hair back before I walk in the store

Pin Curls via Vixen Vintage

3. Finish what I started. 6 months ago we bought this house.. Needless to say my kitchen looks 80% the same as it did here minus the lack of a counter top and 1/2 of the floor 

Kitchen New house

4. Dance in the rain! I use to do this every time it rained, one of the reasons I do not own and umbrella but lately I have just duck and ran. Next time I will slow down.

repinned no orginal

5. Get a new piercing

6. Live life like Lily! Just check out that rockin headband she wore it with everything for a week because she loves it.

7. Wear my own things, I have a pretty nice size vintage collection but I Never wear any of it out of the house. I love every piece I own but I don't want to "stand out" in my tiny town

Earrings I scored in November 

8. Take more pictures!! This was my only photo on last years 365

my 366

 9. Learn to blog and do it quickly! No joke I have been fighting with this one post for two days and this has taken me all day.

10. Be Happy! 

There are so many sad and upsetting things going on around me right now and every day I have a major freak out. I just need to stop, breath and be happy, 

It looks a little like Christmas...

      I am so not feeling the Christmas spirit this year, not sure if it is because I am flat broke or because my mom's 50th would have been Dec 26th. But I figured I would share a few photos of Christmas 2011 at our new house. The house if far from "done" but I hope to paint these ugly white walls around the new year.

vintage records 

My dads candles and mr. and mrs. clause i found at my grandmothers 

my grandmother ceramics 

kids art work from school

Vintage tree jars my mom kept these filled with kisses

Vintage tree #1 with shiny brites! 

  We have 3 full size trees up, yes 3! But for some reason picasa does not like me this month. Happy Holidays!

Pssh-Pssh people

        Do you ever have random strangers ask you random questions? I usually answer them back with some random bs  sweet motherly comment or keep walking because I have more things to do than get stuck in a long conversation with a random stranger. 

             Here are a few of the many questions I have been asked.

Did you Have all those kids?.. (eyes wide open)

Nope! I went to the super market store and picked them all out. 

  Yes, I have 4 children and they all come from my body.

Did you plan/choose to have two boys and two girls?..

Why yes when I went to the super market doctor he asked what preference I had. So each time I said Girl, Boy, Girl, Boy lets make it even.

 I am sure You know the real answer to this question.

Where is you husband? (yes people ask this)

Who, what? I told you I bought these kids at the market why would I have a husband!?! 

  He is usually at work during the day and sleeping at night or trying to get ready for work bc he has to leave home at 4:45-5 am everyday.

Are you done?!? I honestly answer this one; Yes! cut tied and burned. 

I could never afford any more kids and am not in the mood to call TLC so I can build a bigger house. 

Where are you from? Umm here...  

For some reason people think I am not from the south? I guess if I don't sport any camo or have Alabama signs on my car so they can't tell.

How old are you? (This is when I have no kids in tow just the baby with me) Old as dirt lets see I have an 11 year old so I can buy this rated R dvd of Halloween but I have no clue of my age. Can you do math?  

Why does she talk so much? (Asked about me from those '"Pssh-Pssh" types to other random people sitting next to them)   SECRETS DON'T MAKE FRIENDS! 

     I don't really mind people asking questions because heck, how are you supposed to learn anything if you never ask anything has to be better than the "Pssh-Pssh" people.

*This post was written for Mama Kat's Writers Workshop prompt.*

 "Create an FAQ page for yourself that answers frequently asked questions if people were to frequently ask you questions. People make those up all the time. YOUR TURN!"

I need to get off my A$$ (Word-full Wednesday)

             I really don't know what to say or do here anymore... So much has happened in the past four months and I feel like I have gotten nothing done. I have paint cans sitting on the front porch and boxes stacked to the ceiling in various corners of my "new" home. I am overwhelmed by the painting, fixing and the unpacking that needs to be done. I made the comment the other day that when we moved I left all of my domestication at the old house. H agreeing said that I don't do shit anymore. I know haven't washed a dish unless I needed it. I have had to buy 1,000 paper plates I am currently twitching my nose (it's not working) at that pile of clean laundry on the couch no one ever uses. It is all pretty sad. I want to unpack but as soon as I do I run across a photo or t-shirt and break down into tears over my mom. It really doesn't help that my Grandmother came by and unloaded all of my mothers things under my carport. I made H put everything but the photos in the shed. I don't know whats wrong with me. This move was supposed to make me happy and it has in a way but it has also made me as mad as a hornet. I hate the new school, both of my honor roll students are bring home test grades that are D's and I don't know what to do about it. I like the fact I know where I am going when I need to go somewhere. My aunt has moved closer to us which is pretty nice seeing how the girls love to spend time with her. But something just feels off. At least at the old house I didn't know anyone so I didn't mind being home all day or not seeing grown-ups but now we are close to everyone and we still don't see them or talk to out friends who live 15 minutes from us now. It also might be the fact that I hate at least one half of all the couples that we know or the fact that I am not a day time drinker (if any) that some people tend to be. It just feels like I am living in a big mess of drama and junk. So I guess I better go fake clean the kitchen and stop bitching about everything and just do it!