How and when to Break-up

       I know I am not the seeker of all truths or anything but some people really confuse me. You know how when your life long friend lies to you and you trash her whole way of life? (Guilty) Or when two people split up and you tell your bff that you never liked that sorry excuse for a guy anyway. Why do we do that? I have seen it get pretty darn ugly. Things like telling the cops they do drugs, getting them fired, busting all the air out of their tires. 

      I think of it like this. If it was a good friend you had to know she was like that anyway, so stop talking to her and if she never calls you back than good riddance. If it was a relationship that's when things get kind-of tricky. We all start fights and break-up for stupid reasons. You are not perfect, he is not perfect, maybe that's why you get along. But what are some of those reasons. I have a small list of a few reasons and solutions. 

1. You are looking for a reason he is not right. Facebook stalking, driving by his work, asking about some "girl". 

Why?!?! Do you know he cheated? Do you need proof? Ask him! and if he did pack his shit and change your #.

2. Little things. Toilet seats, tooth paste, dishes, trash. 

Are you Martha Stewart?!?! Does he bitch about your make-up all over the phone, shoes taking over the closet, headbands and ponytail holders all over the house? No?!? Then shut-it, close-it, wash-em and take it out. 

3. But "We never see each other". Crying Because you never spend time together?!?!

Are you 13??!?! Most adults have a job, bills to pay and children! So between little Johnny's football practice

and working 7-4 not including the time to get home he never gets time to himself much-less you.

4. He "changed". Looks, actions, weight, clothing, mood.

Have you looked in the mirror honey??!? I don't know about you but after 15 years, 4 kids and a year of hell, I sure have! I look like and old maid, am lazy as a cow, dress like one of those before shots on What not to Wear and am pretty much a B* 24/7.

5. He did it! Cheated, hit you, sold the car without asking, took all your money and ran, etc.

Then knock his ass down and call 911. Then after they pick up his stupid ass. Press charges, show up in court and move far a away. Never talk to his stupid ass again. Never! If you have kids go to court tell them what happened and they will work the situation out to figure out the best plan for the children. But do not stand up for him. 

Either way the situation goes, don't be stupid. Petty fights, name calling, running off with the "new guy" it's all dumb. If you have kids, your children will remember it. They Can her you and know who you are talking about. The next idiot will not be perfect he will still leave the seat up. That "newness" will ware off and you will be stuck with another idiot. 

*This was a post of of humor meant for those crazy single gals of mine who just can't find the one price charming in tin foil.*

However abuse is not a joke and if you or someone you know is dealing with abuse please call your local DHR, police or http://cawc.org/ for help. 

I survived the first day of Winter Break!... Not really

Ahhh what a day it has been! I remember being so ready for winter break when I was a kid. Lazy days of sleeping till noon staying in jams all day & watching movies all night. Then staying up as late as I could, even faking asleep when my dad came in to check on me. I always had a house full of friends, for some reason mine was the house to go to, yet the smallest of everyone I knew. I went to an upper class school but I was very messed up middle class, my mom was a medical assistant and dad was and RN in the Army. They lived together from the time i was 9 till 16 yet had divorced when I was 2. My father remarried when I was 7. It went down hill when he came back from overseas.But I am pretty close to him. My mother who wasn't really a "mom" she just made up for it by buying me everything I wanted. She was also previously married and in the divorce her ex got custody of my sister.... (not sure why). So I faked it enough to make it through school then moved out. In 2000 my mother had gastric bypass surgery and after not finding the man of her dreams she became a wino. Lost her job, her licence and I took over her car. She went rehab and fried all her brain cells. One of the many reasons I moved 125 miles away from her.

Fast forward 10 or so years. I was really looking forward to winter break mostly the sleeping in part, bc heck I stay in jams all day anyway. Well for some stupid reason the whole state got out of school last Friday, but not us. This year may kids where expected to go to school today but, uhh we didn't. After cleaning up one kids room we where all exhausted. So as always I woke up on the couch at 2 am then moved to the bed and overslept. Well for some crazy reason today started out okay until the kids dad/the man I married(ineedanameforhim) went to work. Then all hell broke loose, the baby who was happily playing in his walker started crying, the phone rang, I was stuck in a laundry pile so I couldn't find the phone. Kids started fighting over the tv. I gave up. So me and baby boy went to play in his room. Then my mother called she made a little sense until she started repeating herself. So that ended in a hang up call. After the dust settled with that I went to feed baby boy in the kitchen. Next thing I knew yelling started back within 5 minutes baby food went everywhere and I stepped on glass and had to take a shower, all 5 of us were crying. So currently my house looks like MTVs spring break. I have a cut on my foot, ears are ringing, head hurts,cans are everywhere,panties in the bathroom floor, clothes & hangers on den the floor, dishes all over the house I don't know if I will sleep tonight and if so whose bed/couch it will be on. This is only day 1 with 14 more to go! All alone no MIL, gma or ex to send them off to. Save me!